Reigniting the Spark

The Fireworks and the Reminder

It’s the 4th of July, and I’m sitting here listening to fireworks flutter through the sky near my house. While I’ve never been overly excited about watching them in person, a small part of me still finds joy in hearing that one big burst, the one that lights up the sky and grabs everyone's attention.

As I waited to hear it, I realized something: I love the surprise, awe, and anticipation. There’s something truly special about a spark. It connects, rekindles, and revives. Sparks start things, but they can also restart things. That little realization led me down a path I wasn’t expecting.

When Life Dims the Glow

Over the last few months, my husband has been doing his best to spark moments between us, some subtle, some more obvious. Like many busy moms juggling too many plates, I unintentionally (and at times, intentionally) ignored those sparks.

Eventually, I noticed his flicker starting to fade. His sweet nudges and daily expressions of love slowed. At first, I grew a little irritated. But after some honest reflection, I realized that my spark had fizzled. I allowed life, responsibilities, and exhaustion to dim something sacred.

What the Spark Taught Me About Love

I sat with that realization and thought back to the beginning—the first moments of falling in love: the butterflies, the laughter, and the intentionality. What made those early days so beautiful wasn’t just the newness, but the joy and effort of being truly seen and cherished.

Rediscovering that made me feel soft again, hopeful, and reconnected. It reminded me that love thrives when both hearts stay open and when the small things are seen as sacred.

Reigniting with Purpose

So I made a conscious choice to reignite the spark. I started:

• affirming my husband more

• commenting on his appearance

• listening more closely

• showing appreciation without needing a reason.

And here's the truth: it was healing for him, but it did even more for me.  It reminded me why I said “yes” in the first place. It reminded me that love isn’t always loud or grand; it’s often found in the small, thoughtful moments filled with deep care.

Dear Reader

If you're reading this and your spark has dimmed too, please know it’s not gone. It just needs attention, intention, and time. Love is still there, waiting to be fanned into flame again.

💛 What’s one small thing you can do today to reignite the spark in your marriage, or even within yourself?