The Gift Hidden In My Imperfection

May 13, 2025 -Celebrate an imperfection you're learning to appreciate

Dear J,

If you had asked childhood me to name a few of my imperfections, I would’ve rattled off a list of physical features without hesitation. But as I sit with this prompt today, I realize how much my perspective has changed. My definition of imperfection has deepened—it's no longer just about what’s seen on the outside, but what’s stirring on the inside too.

One imperfection I’m learning to appreciate is my desire to have the last word. Honestly, this trait has followed me since I was a child. Most of my scolding and long talks growing up directly resulted from it. I’ve had to learn—often the hard way—that getting the last word doesn't always equal winning. Sometimes, it just means I’ve lost an opportunity to listen or lead gracefully.

Just a few days ago, I caught myself in this very pattern. I was correcting one of my children, and although he respectfully offered a valid point, I pushed past it to ensure my thoughts were the final ones spoken. Later, he gently brought it back up—and in replaying the moment, I realized he was right. My desire to be the one who closes the conversation had taken over. I owed him an apology.

So, how can I celebrate this imperfection?

Because every time I recognize it, I also acknowledge growth. I see the patience of those who love me. I see how far I’ve come in self-awareness. I see the slow, steady work of transformation. And that’s worth honoring.

I don’t celebrate it to justify it or hold onto it forever. I celebrate it to acknowledge that imperfection is often where the real learning happens. I’m reminded to pause, reflect, and choose better whenever I catch it.

Today, I challenge you: What’s one imperfection you’re learning to appreciate—not because it’s perfect, but because it’s teaching you something real? Write about it. Celebrate the lesson it brings. Growth begins with awareness.

Until Next Time,

Love,

Mel